A few weeks ago Kevin Hart was asked to be the 2019 host of
the Oscars. However, shortly after his
invitation several “comedic” tweets that were made approximately 10 years ago
surfaced. It is at this time that the
Academy added a stipulation for his hosting invitation. Kevin would have to apologize for the
tweets. This request started a firestorm
frenzy because Kevin noted that he had apologized and would not apologize again.
Many people in the black community did not see what the
issue was since Kevin has “apologized”.
In the eyes of many in the black community; this was just another
example of white people trying to take a popular, loved and powerful black man
down. It is at this point that I began
investigating for myself. Where was the
apology that was made a few years ago? I
really wanted to see it. As the weeks
went by this allusive apology never seemed to surface. This became problematic for me. Honestly I did not understand what the big
deal would be for Kevin to just simply apologize. However, since I wasn’t the one being asked
to kiss the proverbial ring of the gay white mafia, the presumed culprits for bringing the pressure on the Academy to insist on an apology. In a strange way, I could understand the male
determination to not bend.
Kevin was recently a guest on Ellen DeGeneres Show where this was the topic
of conversation. Ellen, a white lesbian, was extending her support and power to bring this issue to bed. During that program Kevin decided to plead
his case and apologize. He stated “If I
hurt or offended anyone…” This was a
half ass apology. When you apologize
in sincerity you do not begin it with “If”.
You know you hurt those in the LGBTQ community so why the “if”
part. It simply devalues everything that
you say after it. Ellen, got a lot of
heat for supporting Kevin. She also was
unaware how these comments impacted the black and brown gay communities. Therefore, black gays completely discredited his
opinions. Black LGBTQ people are being
murdered and assaulted at much higher rates than our white counterparts. His “jokes” simply give license and
permission to devalue and abuse those in the black LGBTQ communities.
Don Lemon (CNN) reached out to Kevin noting that this has not been
a real apology. So, today on his Sirrius XM radio program Kevin provided a FULL apology.
He stated that he realizes that he has hurt many in the LGBTQ community
with his words. He noted that he has
grown and I appreciate his ability to do so on his own terms. Don suggested to Kevin that he should become become a
LGBTQ advocate/ally, however, Kevin had no desire to do so. I think that is a great decision because his
initial “apology yet non-apology” has done a little bit more damage than he can
imagine. Accepting him as a
spokesperson/advocate would not be something that the community could deal
with. I have friends that still think his most
recent apology was less than genuine. I
think at this time he has lost some previous supporters because he was so
unwilling to come out and sincerely apologize when this hit the fan. While I appreciate his apology it is the
right thing done much too late. It
appears that it was done with a bit of contention.
I want to believe that Kevin is a better man for
this experience I am not sure if that is the case. I hope that a valuable lesson was learned by
Kevin once the dust settles. One where
he appreciates the value of the black LGBTQ community. We are not monolithic and many of the
responses of my friends ran from burn him at the stake in the town square to
who really cares when other black comedians have said the same or worse.